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Recent Blog Posts in May 2010 |
| May 27, 2010 |
| Moving Through Change: A Mom's Journey to a New Home (by Ellen Kellner) |
| Posted By Transitional Family Resources |
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I love my home. For some people the living room and dining room have long lost their original intent, but for me, these rooms are my sanctuary. A place free from toys, clutter, mess, and TVs. They are rooms filled with things of beauty to me—candles, comfortable chairs with reading lights, books and earthy elements of rocks, twigs, and plants—all providing a space for special moments.
And the moments are plenty. It is a place of stillness while I work or meditate; a place of gathering for dinners; a dance floor for when my daughters and I feel like being silly; plus, a music room when my older daughter pulls out her guitar or my younger wants to perform. When I walk into my home I always look around with such gratitude.
But now it’s time to move.
Relationship break-ups often involve separating from more than just a partner; prompting a separation from your home as well. This is one of those times.
And while there’s room for all emotions, the predominant one that I’m wrapping around this move is excitement and opportunity. My daughters and I aren’t just taking a step into new possibilities, we’re leaping into the great unknown by packing a new tent and a map.
I’ve done the hectic move from one home into another. Emotionally and physically it’s exhausting for all involved. This time I’m taking a new approach: a month of being homeless. Or, phrased more eloquently: a month between homes. So while I’m gearing up to de-clutter, sort, and store, I’m also gathering up my camping gear. Destination? The stars, big skies, and fresh air of the West.
Instead of lining-up an intensive move, we’re gathering images of “must see” destinations. Instead of focusing on a perceived loss, we’re having fun practicing tent set-ups and learning about aluminum foil campfire cooking. While our belongings rest in storage, our minds can rest in the simplicity of camping. I’m so thankful for this opportunity - a possibility that only opened because of our move.
During one quiet moment on the living-room sofa, my older daughter shared that she’ll miss the scene that surrounded us. And I agreed. But I reminded both of us that it isn’t the room, the carpet, or the walls that created this sacred space, it’s the tremendous love that we all share and the special items that we chose to bring into it. I looked at her and said, “this is our home because it’s what we’ve created. This love, this intent, goes with us wherever we go because we value it.” And we both knew it was true.
Yes, there are moments when I fret about our yet unrevealed next address, but I do know that getting there via the West will be a great adventure—one that will land us right back in the comfort of our living room, wherever that may be.
This is the power of a parent with intent: the intent to nurture her children, even through the ups and downs of life. I wish to instill in my girls a sense that it isn’t the “what”, it’s the “how” that matters. How will we be dealing with our move? By singing loudly with the windows down as we cruise to new destinations.
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Mindful mom, thinker, and author, Ellen Kellner, guides parents through The Pro-Child Way® of nurturing their child’s spirit through her intuition, discernment, and experience. Her book,The Pro-Child Way®: Parenting with an Ex is available through Amazon or www.TheProChildWay.com
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